This opinion piece appeared in The West Australian on 27 July 2024. It is written by Debbie Childs, CEO at HelpingMinds.
Emotional scenes erupted in WA’s Supreme Court when Wendy Sym, a registered nurse, collapsed in the dock after being sentenced to nine years for attempting to murder her husband. Ms Sym, who had spent decades caring for Perth’s sickest children, reached her breaking point after nearly ten years of being the sole carer for her dementia-stricken partner. Described as suffering from “carer’s fatigue,” her tragic actions were a desperate cry for help from a woman overwhelmed by the relentless demands of caregiving.
This heartbreaking case underscores the immense pressures faced by full-time carers, many of whom also juggle full-time jobs. Caring for a loved one with a chronic illness or disability is a relentless responsibility that often goes unnoticed and unappreciated. The emotional, physical, and mental toll can be immense, leading to chronic stress, exhaustion, and a sense of isolation.
One of the primary challenges is the difficulty carers face in identifying themselves as such. Many people do not realise they are carers; they see themselves simply as spouses, parents, or children fulfilling familial duties. This lack of recognition prevents them from seeking support services, leaving them to cope alone. The government needs to launch more awareness campaigns to help individuals understand what it means to be a carer and encourage them to seek available resources.
Avoiding carer burnout requires a multifaceted approach that needs a whole of community approach with some practical solutions:
Respite Care: The government should ensure that respite care is readily available and affordable. Carers need regular breaks to recharge and look after their own health. Funding should be increased to expand respite services and make them accessible to all carers.
Mental Health Support: Caring for someone can be emotionally draining. Carers should have access to counselling and mental health services tailored to their unique challenges. The government could subsidize therapy sessions and create support groups where carers can share their experiences and advice.
Flexible Work Arrangements: Employers need to recognise the dual roles of working carers. Flexible work hours, remote work options, and paid carer leave should be standard practices. Government incentives for businesses that support carer-friendly policies could encourage wider adoption.
Financial Assistance: Caring often comes with financial strain. The government should review and enhance financial support for carers, ensuring they have access to benefits and allowances that adequately cover their needs.
Education and Training: Providing carers with training on managing their responsibilities can empower them and reduce stress. The government could fund programs that teach practical skills, such as time management, stress reduction techniques, and effective caregiving strategies. The Carer Gateway provides some of this however there needs to be more.
Community Support Networks: Local communities can play a vital role in supporting carers. Government initiatives to build community networks where carers can connect and support each other would help alleviate the sense of isolation.
The case of Wendy Sym serves as a dire warning of what can happen when carers are pushed beyond their limits. In the weeks leading up to the incident, Sym’s psychological state had deteriorated, expressing feelings of stress, sadness, and loneliness to her daughter. Her actions were described as a “cry for help,” a tragic attempt to ease both her own suffering and that of her husband.
It is a call to action for all of us to acknowledge the crucial role carers play and the immense pressures they face. The government and our community as a whole must step up and implement comprehensive support systems to ensure every carer in Australia can identify as a carer and receive the help they need. Only then can we prevent further tragedies and build a society that truly values and supports our carers.